Finding Mondays even harder than normal? I definitely am. We've got to the point in lockdown where our weekends have hit a restorative rhythm; lazy morning in bed, finishing the books that have sat on the bedside table for too long, starting that puzzle that's collecting dust, feeding your sourdough starter, doing an instagram live workout and using Zoom calls with friends as an excuse to open the bottle of wine slightly earlier than you usually would.
However, this does mean Mondays feel that little bit harder as the reality of the situation hits with full force. Whether you're worrying for your business, worrying where your next pay cheque is coming from or worrying for the health of your loved ones, Mondays are still Mondays and provide a new anxiety for the week ahead...
Well, here's a little reminder to be kind to yourself. However you have been affected by coronavirus, we are all going through a grief cycle of sorts.
This article provides five tips for how to cope with Moody Mondays. One of them "control the things you can control", is a tool I often rely on for coping through tough times. So, I'm getting up in the morning to exercise before work, I'm making a list and (trying to) tackle each one at a time and I'm being kind to myself and taking a break when I need it. I'm also being honest with people about how I'm feeling because it's reassuring to hear that I'm not alone. And I'm sure you're not either!
There's a reason why we're feeling this way; we are actually in a state of mourning for our pre-coronavirus lives and our changing emotions reflect the fact that we are going through a grief cycle – what in psychology circles is known as the Kubler-Ross grief/change curve. Dr Swart explains: “It’s a psychological model that describes the seven grief stages we will go through: grief, shock, anger, denial, depression, finding meaning and acceptance. “The first two stages are high cortisol [stress response] states where the brain and body are under stress. The next two are low serotonin [feel-good] states where our mood dips and we cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel, the last two are oxytocin [love/bonding] building states where we search for purpose to make sense of the situation and are finally able to adapt.”